*Sigh* Sometimes it’s just really hard with kids. They test our patience and stretch us beyond what we are capable of in our own strength. I know, sister, I have six kids, including a few strong wills. Maybe you feel a little guilty for having clicked this link or maybe even initiating a search on what to do when your kids are driving you crazy?
As moms we feel guilty about SO MUCH. Sometimes I think it might be a little worse for Christian moms. It’s like we are supposed to pretend we never get frustrated with our kids. Well let’s face it we live in a broken, dying world and our sin and our children’s sins sometimes just gets the best of us.
Our children are 100% blessings from the Lord, we love them more than life and sacrifice daily for our family, but sometimes amidst the chaos and constant demands we can lose our focus and perspective.
Add to all that the laundry, preparing three meals a day, day after day, dishes and sweeping. Don’t forget the whining and complaining, bickering and kids just being kids. Sometimes it just gets to be a lot! So what do you do when your kids are driving you crazy?
What to do when your kids are driving your crazy: 10 practical things to stop the crazy and bring back the perspective
1.Put yourself in time out.
Take a few minutes to regroup. Find a place where you can get alone for a few minutes. Close the bathroom door or step outside, wherever you can and take a few deep breaths. Read a bit from the Bible if your head is clear enough. Meditate on the scripture I’ve included below. Take a few minutes to pray and ask the Lord to help you. Journaling your thoughts can be helpful too.
2. Problem Solve.
Plan a longer break later and problem solve. What are some problems that are causing you stress and where do you need to make adjustments? Do you need to tighten up your discipline efforts? Does one child need extra attention? Do chores or routines need to be moved to make things run more smoothly? Pray, setting your mind on things above, asking the Lord for wisdom and I’ll guarantee you the Lord will show you where to focus.
3. Remember that the battle is not actually with the kids.
The battle is not with flesh and blood. Motherhood is a high and holy calling, one Satan is not pleased with, he works hard to undermine your relationship with your children. What you are doing mothering your children is God’s work, try to remember it’s not the kids, it’s the sin (yours and theirs) that’s really the problem.
4. Laugh with the kids.
When everyone is getting on everyone’s nerves and you are all getting grumpy and on edge, sometimes you need a little comedic therapy. Say something silly, do a silly little dance. Something to break the tension and help everyone lighten up. Don’t take everything so seriously.
4. Go outside, even if the weather isn’t ideal.
Fresh air and sunshine always helps. There’s room to diffuse the energy and the noise. There is something very soothing about being outside in God’s creation. Even fussy babies calm just about instantly when we simply walk outside. Studies show that being out in nature is calming and stress relieving. We need that and so do the kids.
5. Stop and do something fun together.
Ignore the piles of laundry and cheerios on the floor and do something that you all enjoy together. Maybe you color together, or read a few pictures books or a chapter of your current read aloud. Maybe you make a simple snack and a pot of tea to have together. It’s about your relationship with one another and showing them love.
6. Make sure you are taking care of yourself.
As moms we are so prone to put everyone else’s needs ahead of our own. Yes, we are called to be sacrificial, however there is nothing wrong with taking some time for yourself. In fact, I’d argue it’s crucial to mothering well. I think we all need that reminder, we have to take care of ourselves in order to be able to serve our families well.
7. Get out of the house by yourself
I love being in my home, but I think when we are in our own four walls all day long seeing only the unending tasks and problems of our lives, that those tasks and problems become much bigger giants than they need to be. Getting out for a cup of coffee or browsing the bookstore can make things seem much less overwhelming when we return home.
8. Put on some soothing music.
Worship and classical are favorites in our house. We love Seeds family worship because it puts scripture to music. This is double duty here. We are hearing God’s word, his truths and promises which sets our minds on things above, but something about music is just a mood booster and a distraction.
9. Makes sure the kids are staying busy.
Sometimes they just need something to do. This doesn’t mean you have to revolve your life around entertaining them. Give them plenty of chores and responsibilities around the house. But also plan some fun things to do together.
10. Do something to be grateful for your blessings.
Think of a child with a terminal illness and be thankful for healthy children who have lots of energy to be loud and energetic. Be reminded that so many women would give anything for a child and you have been blessed. Ask the Lord to help you see your children as the blessings they are and to love them the way that he loves them.
Lord, I just pray for myself and all these mamas, who are feeling a little or maybe a lot weary in this high and worthy task you’ve called us to called motherhood. Our precious children are blessings and gifts from you help us to remember that and to love them the way you love us. You promise you will lead us gently and you carry our cares and burdens. I pray for wisdom and guidance and patience and forbearance.
In Jesus name, Amen.
Verses to mediate on:
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. -Psalm 127:3
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. -Galatians 6:9
Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. -Colossians 3:2
My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. -Psalm 121:2
For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. -Ephesians 6:12
Now if you’ll excuse me i need to go put my own advice into practice! I really wrote this for myself, for the times when I get carried away by the chaos and lose my perspective. Tell me, do you have any other ideas on what to do when your kids are driving YOU crazy?